You might not come across a stellar kisser too often. There are far more people who feel they excel at kissing than really do. If you are uncertain about your own kissing skill, you might want to know if you are a good kisser. By following these steps you will be able to find out.

 

1. Check in with your partner. Pucker up with your newest partner. Try to focus on the kiss and experiment with a few different positions and styles. Pay attention to your partner's response. Does he or she try to take over and lead you in a different direction? Does he or she seem bored and just going through the motions? Both of these are indications that you could use some help with your technique. By focusing on your partner's response when you lock lips you can get an idea of how good you kiss without having to ask someone to test you. If your partner's responses are unclear, then move through the rest of these steps.

 

2. Know how you feel about kissing. Do you enjoy kissing and being kissed? Sometimes the best gauge of your skill is your level of enjoyment. When each kiss leaves you breathless, you are doing something right. If your partner wants to escalate an embrace beyond kissing to touching and more intimate activities then you must be having an impact.

 

3.Appreciate the different kiss skills. Being a good kisser is not just about turning on your partner or swapping spit. Kissing involves taste, texture and pressure in addition to the movements your mouth and tongue make. All these things go together so before you start judging kisses, make certain you know what you like and experiment with these different skills.

 

4. Ask around. This might be a last resort but the best judges of your kissing ability are the people who you have kissed. Hopefully you still have a few friends among this group and you can ask them for an honest appraisal of your kissing skill. If not, consider your newest partner fair game. Ask him or her how you fare in the lip locking department.

 

5. Pay attention to constructive criticism. If you are a terrible kisser, someone is bound to let you know. You might hear whispers from your date to his or her friends. Or the guy might make suggestions such as "Why don't we try this?" or "Can you tilt your head a little more?" Such conversation should be considered hints that your technique could use some work (at least for that one partner). Don't take the hints too personally unless you start hearing frequent comments. Remember that no two people like the same things so your puckers may be perfect for one girl but boring for another.

 

6. Keep working on it. The best part about kissing is that the more you do it, the more you can enjoy it. By relaxing and trying new things when you kiss your partner can lead you to new and exciting kissing style and texture.

 

No one ever knows for sure that they are a good kisser all the time. Even the most experienced kisser may not appeal to a partner with different tastes. So if you are unsure, don't worry too much. Just keep practicing and enjoying kissing.

 

 

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